This spring, after more than 100 years of life, my great grandmother passed away. She left a legacy of stories and traditions that will live on in our family. What she didn’t leave, however, were directions for her funeral arrangements. When the family began planning her memorial service, one thing became crystal clear: a lot of people had different ideas about what she would have wanted at her funeral. This resulted in a lot of confusion, disagreement, and ultimately hurt feelings about what was or was not going to be included in her service and who was going to do or say what.
In order to avoid these sorts of situations for our families, we can ensure that our estates are properly planned for and that actual funeral arrangements are in place. My great grandmother had more than enough time to write down what she wanted for her memorial. This was a person who spent more time retired than she did in the work force; she just didn’t think to do it. The link below is to an article that deals with funeral planning, and is helpful if you are looking for a place to start.
Additionally, all of our estate planning documents include a section for memorial instructions. This way, your family can easily find your wishes at the time of your passing.